A Lot Like Love

Every time we experience something different in a new relationship, never felt this before. But after a while, we somehow lose interest. The feeling simply evaporates, leaving us confused.  How did it change so suddenly within us? We don’t even know ourselves. What do we say to the other person, “Why don’t I want to be with you anymore?”

What the mind cannot analyze declares it as a fool’s pastime.

We comfort ourselves by believing that fools follow the heart. Love is nothing but a play of hormones. Life is about adjustments and compromise. We spend our entire life pretending everything is ok. Oh yes, we are so good at that. And our life remains a bouquet of unresolved conflicts.  

The mind lacks the capacity to understand many things; how life suddenly appear and disappear? Who is managing every detail of our existence? What happens after death? How are thoughts formed? Why does so-called love fade? Why is our love dependent on how the other person makes us feel?

But the important question is, how can we love someone when we don’t have enough for ourselves?

It is like asking a beggar for help. If he gives away a little of what he has, he suffers, and if he does not, he still suffers, but in guilt. Whatever little love we have after pouring it all on one relationship – it empties us, and then we demand it back, rather more in return.

We all need to be rich in love, like a king, so that we share it without losing our prosperity. That is not easy.

The commitment of love is like saying, “I commit to never die, I commit to never feel hungry, I commit to never change.” But change is inevitable. How can we promise what is beyond our control?

Commitment is only demanded when we subconsciously know that things are bound to change. This insecurity drives us to control each other through social pressure. But love does not require commitment. A mother never commits to loving her child forever – it simply happens.

When we talk about love between a man and a woman, we are often referring to physical attraction, ego-driven promises, and social liability. And it is confused with love. For a moment, just remove this physicality from the equation – two people living together without any physical intimacy, no commitment, then we begin to understand love from a broader perspective.

Love is effortless, blissful, no suffering, no compromise, it just happens. In love, acceptance crosses all limits.

Our soul is only concerned with our growth and nothing else. Following it, one might not achieve anything materially, but it will surely lead us to something.

River and the Sea
The river flows to meet the sea—
That is her destiny.
She may pause, she may delay,
But never is she meant to stay.
She’s full of life, she soothes the soul,
Gives her whole.
But if you try to hold her tight—
She’ll break your heart and take her flight.
If your eyes lack the depth of sea,
She’ll choose to leave—and still flow free.