Men’s shoe

What does a child see when he is young? He sees his mom managing the home, meals, taking care of children, cleaning, washing, etc. Even if she goes to the office. 

The child sees the predominance of men in sports, politics, corporate, etc. The child sees Papa coming back home, lying on the sofa, demanding tea and food. While mom is coming back home and heading straight to the kitchen. If she needs to travel out, she makes sure everything at home is taken care of.

What is the boy child supposed to learn? “He is born privileged!” “He is the man of the house, the rule-maker”.

A few years ago, I saw an English movie, Yenti. The story was about the time in Poland when women were not considered for education. Their duty was only to serve husbands and take care of family, home, and children. One day, a baby girl was born to a couple in a small town. The child’s father decided to educate his daughter at home. She soon became a smart, intelligent, and learned girl and wanted to pursue college. She disguises herself as a boy and goes for higher studies. Everyone thought of her as a man. She was sincere and focused. The situation pushed her, and somehow she got married to another girl, but she managed to keep the distance from her.

She, as a husband, realized how it feels to be a man.  She had never experienced such attention before. The wife was concerned about her all the time, fulfilling all the small needs. Soon it became a habit. Sometimes she scolded her wife for being so dumb; the wife felt bad but did not react.

After a few months, she realized that the truth would not be hidden for long and she decided to leave the place. But before leaving, she educated her wife. The wife got the knowledge and learned to know about her inner strength.

​Poem

“Khudi ko kar buland itna,
Ki har taqdeer se pehle,
Khuda bande se khud poochhe,
Bata, teri raza kya hai.”

“Raise your potential so high that before writing your fate, God himself asks you to tell me what you want.”